I've recently been thinking about insecurities and about how the media is shaping them and almost like in the movie "Inception" is planting them into your head and you won't even notice!
There's a certain ideal the media promotes, a certain way you have to look or dress, certain way to wear your hair or do your make up, ceratin things you have to like to measure up to it and since it's so subtly done, people, including you, accept is as a given thing. And since only a very, very limited number of people is actually wearing a size zero, or can affort to only buy MAC makeup and always dress according to the latest fashion by hip new designers or even "only" from Urban Outfitters, this distorted, unrealistic, media created ideal causes nothing but insecurities and complexes!! Which are the worst for teenagers I think, since they are naturally way more selfconcious and not comfortable with themselves and depend even more on the opinion of others. Or maybe that's just what we think is natural, because in our generation we only know (and were ourselves) teenagers that grew up with those media dictated ideals...and only when you free your mind of those patterns and start thinking for yourself and question it, you notice that it's complete bullshit! Usually it takes you some time to notice, cause when you're still a teenager your too intent on the judgement of others whose opinion is again made up by someone else, it's a vicious circle you see...But still as a grown up, even if you see through all this media dictation, you still can't get rid of some insecurities! I still catch myself at quarreling with my body, even though I've come to a point where I can accept it for its curvyness...or at least I thought so!
Also me being single for years and years is not because I haven't ever met anyone I like in all this time, but becuase everytime that other person or any person is showing interest as well I find it so unlikely that I don't even notice or persuade myself that it's just my imagination or wishful thinking, until they lose patience or interest! And how can I know it and not be able to change it?! It's not that I "don't like myself", but obviously I definitely got issues with my self esteem, even though I know that the publicly dictated ideal of beauty is bollocks, cause true beauty is within! and I don't even think those anorectic looking models or actresses or slutty dressed singers are pretty, and that makes it bug me even more!!! But like in the movie "Inception" now that I realised the problem I can start to fight it and get it out of my head!!
And as if she had guessed it, the wonderful
Kate Nash showed a video at her show I went to with my sister in London on saturday, about her
rock'n'roll for girls after school club project she is doing at the moment, to raise the number of female songwriters by giving them the confidence in themselves! She also gave a
speech about her project and how you should not worry about imperfetions or people criticizing you for them, cause that they make you who you are, which was so lovely, honest and encouraging! Isn't she the coolest?!
The show in general was great, not only the little documentary she was showing at the beginning, but also her support act
Brigitte Aphrodite, who I've seen previously supporting Kate in October at Shepherd's Bush Empire and who just released their first single
"I dream myself awake", which is sooo good (you can buy it
here)!! Brigitte is a mixture of singer/songwriter and comedienne with hilarious lyrics and a great, glittery live show! She is so energetic, positive and funny, you just get carried away, are put in a great mood and all you wanna do is dance and sing along!!
Kate Nash herself was incredible as always! As much as I love her records, they're nothing compared to her voice playing live and she easily masters the balancing act of moving from catchy pop tunes on the piano to riot grrrl punk style songs on the guitar and being charming, cool, outspoken, nice and bold at the same time! She really makes you want to be her best friend and just go out with her for drinks! Big love!
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